About Intimate Partner Violence
Recognizing Forms of Abuse:
Verbal / Emotional : calling you names, putting you down, threatening to kill you or your children, threatening to leave with the children, threatening to harm pets, etc.
Sexual: forcing you to have sex against your will; forcing you to engage in unwanted sexual activity
Spiritual: using religious text out of context and using it in a self-serving way; not allowing you to practice your faith
Any abuse is bad. There is no such thing as "deserving it" or "asking for it". Both women and men can be victims.
Cycle of Abuse
In most relationships, the cycle of abuse happens many times. The abuse does not stop. Often, it happens more frequently and may become more severe. Over time, the make up period disappears.
Myths & Facts about Intimate Partner
Fact: No one deserves to be abused. Victims do not cause their partners to be abusive.
Myth: Low-income, minority women are abused most often?
Fact: Domestic abuse can happen to anyone. Women of all ages, races, education levels, economic levels, and religions are abused.
Myth: Children aren't harmed that much unless they are also beaten or abused.
Fact: Children who witness abuse
suffer emotional abuse, even if they are not physically abused. They
suffer anxiety, depression, behavior and emotional disturbances. Children
who grow up in abusive homes are more likely to drop out of school, abuse
others, or become victims of abuse.
Know the FACTS:
Domestic violence is the single greatest cause of injury to women in the United States .
Violence against an intimate partner is a crime in all states.
Every day an estimated four (4) women are killed by their husbands, boyfriends, or ex-partners.
No one deserves to be beaten, threatened, or humiliated.
Abuse is wrong. It is not part of a normal, healthy relationship.
It is NOT the victim's fault.
Everyone has the right to live without fear and violence.
The violence will become worse over time.
Battering is not a result of poor anger management skills, or drug & alcohol use. Batterers abuse because they choose to be abusive.
Intimate partner violence follows a cycle. After the abusive episode comes the apologies. After a while, there is no make up period - just violence.
Intimate partner violence is a crime.
Take the Test
Look at your current relationship and honestly answer these questions.
If you answered, "yes" to just
one of these questions,